The more changes you make before the baby arrives, the fewer problems you'll have afterward.
Tessa, a young, exuberant Golden Retriever, is just too bright to be easy to live with. Pushy, mouthy, and adorable, she is doted on by her owners, soon-to-be parents. Although they worry about her habit of eating strange things (like rocks and disposable razors), they usually "do not have the heart" to control her. Anytime they try to correct her, the husband comes on too strong, and the wife compensates for his intensity by babying the dog. Tessa is a mess. When they told me they were expecting, I warned them: "Decide now what behaviors you want and don't want, or you'll have problems later." They now have problems.
An attention addict, Tessa continues to leap at them for petting, only now they have an infant in their arms. She is still mouthy, and the cute grabbing of clothing she has always done is now dangerous when she grabs the baby blanket. They constantly worry about Tessa mouthing the baby, and when given half a chance, the dog runs to the crib and starts barking.
Parenthood can overwhelm anyone - in the best possible way. Many adults never knew that such strong love was possible. It's not that you don't love your pet; it's simply that for a while love for your pet is eclipsed by the total involvement with your child.
Of course, you may be the exception. You may stay calm, cool, and balanced, but don't bet your life savings on it. By anticipating the personal and household changes, you can take real steps to making the transition smooth and easy for your dog. Preparation is seldom wasted. If it turns out that nothing has changed, going back to the way it was will be easy. But if things do change, then your pet will be well prepared. Deny it, prolong it, or ignore it, and you're inviting problems.
We suggest:
* Our books: Childproofing Your Dog and My Smart Puppy.
* Teach “Sit is It!” – making “sit” the answer to everything.
* Work your Space Games – Especially “Mine” and “Move” often.
* Practice “Off” when your dog is calm, so she learns never to put her feet up on you.
* Limit lap time for small dogs. Your lap is going to be full for the next few years.
* Pet, praise and treat your dog when she has a toy or bone so she learns to LOVE having people approach her when she is chewing.
* Ignore her more. You need to wean your “addict” now.
* Increase her exercise so she can burn off some of this steam.
* Make small changes now for big results later.